Sunday, September 30, 2012

A Boy's Life 

I remember the day we went for our gender scan and my sneaking suspicions were confirmed..... Our baby was a boy! 

If I am honest, my first thoughts were, "I was right, I'm always right" ha ha, followed by the sudden realization "a boy? what am I going to do with a boy, I've always been more partial to girls, I'm a girl! I don't know the first thing about boys!". 

I'd always wanted a boy first, so that my little girls would have a big brother, someone to protect them from bullies, carry their school bag, give them the last lolly in the packet, cover their eyes for them in the scary parts of movies. Sounds dreamy. I have since learnt from my sister in law that my husband (the oldest) was more of a pest than a prince. He did keep the losers at bay though, by paying a geek with a crush to never let my sister in law out of his site at parties. Pretty annoying when you're trying to hook up with hot guys she retells. 

As Jax's due date drew near, I was more and more conscious of the fact that I didn't know what to do with a little boy. I should have thought more about the fact that I didn't know what to do with a baby, but go figure :D I even lamented a little as I thought about the special bond my husband and son would have because they would both share a love of sweat, mud and football induced tears. I wish I could blame my foolishness on hormones, unfortunately I think that's just me. 

Almost 4 months on and I tell you what, my little boy is SUPER PERFECT and I wouldn't swap or change him for the world. I have learnt very quickly however, to cover his *winky* when we change nappies as that appendage has a life of it's own, and quiet a projectile range. The older he gets the more "boy like" he becomes, for instance my mother taught my son to blow raspberries, which my husband calls "FART NOISES", it seems to be Jax's favourite thing to do, and it's hilarious when Daddy makes fart noises with his mouth. Also the fart noises aren't just from the top end, but maybe that's babies in general and not just boys???????

His favourite book to date is David and Goliath, and he is very interested in the stone throwing part which kills the giant Goliath. I make an effort to explain that throwing rocks at people could be very dangerous, Roelof on the other hand likes to describe in detail with sound effects how the rock would have hit Goliath's skull *splat*. 

I imagine that all you seasoned mothers of boys are smiling, I have a long way to go don't I. I'm looking forward to it though, not the dirty part, I'm an excessive compulsive cleaner... (my youngest brother came to visit last week and ask my husband and I were rushing around dusting and wiping he said "so... how many times a week do you clean?") so that should be challenging. 

He is growing so quickly, it's exciting but sad at the same time, you Mums know what I mean don't you?!?! Though I am looking forward to the day when he can cuddle back, at the moment he just sucks on my shoulder :D and when he does I whisper to him "you are Mumma's boy, aren't you!" quiet enough so that Daddy can't hear!!!

Friday, September 14, 2012

Bridging The Gap

Moving interstate has been really flippin hard. I won't lie about that. My family first moved interstate when I turned 8, we moved away from our extremely close extended family to begin my Dad's journey into ministry, which coincidentally turned out to be the journey both my younger brothers would take and also my husband and I. You'd think after doing it 6 times I would be used to it, but I'm not. Honestly, I don't like it, because every time we've moved I focus more on what I'm leaving behind and little on the new adventure that awaits.

This last move has been the real clincher though. 2 reasons. 

1. The life my husband and I thought we would cultivate together when we married, in Brisbane with our friends, family, church, building a home, the schools we planned to send our children too, turned out to be different from the plan God has for us. Our journey beyond the next 5 years remains unknown - TRUST REQUIRED!

2. I've lived away from my parents before. When I went to boarding school, when I moved out to go to uni, when  I moved for a job, when I got married. However I was always within a stones throw of my parents, now the leaving and cleaving has become real. I have a family of my own now. And it's impossible to throw a stone from here to where my Mum and Dad live. 

Stepping out and growing up!  = Challenging. 

I digress, this post isn't about the moving but about an attempt to stay connected on a deeper level despite the distance. My sister in law Anna and I have found a way to do that.

 She too lives in Sydney, away from ALL her family. My brother is a Pastor like my Father, and like my husband and youngest brother are studying to be. The difference between us is that she has 3 little girls to keep her busy 3 yrs old and younger, where as I'm only learning to raise one little 3 month old. I have no idea how she does it without family to pop over and give her a break or come and spoil her babies by taking them out for ice cream. I'm learning to watch her very closely for tips!! And praying that God removes that distance!

In her wisdom, when I became a new mum, she suggested that we share a weekly devotional together over the phone. Something to do with being a mother that would encourage us, teach us, and enable us to support one another on our journey despite the distance between us. She found the book "Feminine Appeal" by Carolyn Mahaney (which my husband is please about as he likes her husband C.J Mahaney).  What a blessing. It's such a gem, and is teaching me so much about mothering, wife - ing (not a word I know) in a godly way. And it doesn't make it complicated. It's challenging me to give of myself, to live a life serving those God has placed closet to me. And to have a sister to share it with, to encourage me and pray with about these "hats" that we wear is a joy.

Thank goodness we live in the age of Skype and Mobile phones :D If you live away from your loved ones and close friends, take time to be creative and find ways to keep in touch and share each others journey despite the distance. Coffee Dates over Skype are always fun!